tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432268013198888049.post6146091261159117786..comments2023-09-12T09:07:57.056-05:00Comments on Everlasting Flame: Adoption: Its a Bumpy RideChoochhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07924924213787237712noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432268013198888049.post-32261158607584302272007-12-28T11:45:00.000-06:002007-12-28T11:45:00.000-06:00It took me until I was 39 years old before I figur...It took me until I was 39 years old before I figured out that I had what some shrinks call Adoptee Abandonment Syndrome. I have had many relationships that "I" ended and could not figure out why. Well, "leave em before they leave me". <BR/><BR/>Welcome Ungrateful! I love your site and there really needs to be more education on the part of the adopting parent to help them realize that it takes Choochhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07924924213787237712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432268013198888049.post-65213811828430530392007-12-28T10:57:00.000-06:002007-12-28T10:57:00.000-06:00Now before you get all huffy and say that you know...<I>Now before you get all huffy and say that you know a family that adopted a child and things are great, stop kidding yourself.</I><BR/><BR/>God, thank you. I always want to say, how do you really know? Are you with them 24/7? Does the adopted person share with you every single thing they feel? Of course not.Ungrateful Little Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08156483035844101714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432268013198888049.post-39535057141748190452007-12-25T15:36:00.000-06:002007-12-25T15:36:00.000-06:00Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!LET'S TALKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06073006900180885164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432268013198888049.post-9703218315070815232007-12-24T10:35:00.000-06:002007-12-24T10:35:00.000-06:00Miss CYou are the one that I was talking about. La...Miss C<BR/><BR/>You are the one that I was talking about. Labeling the child is hurtful at the very least - you do not do that. I think you know when I say how grateful I am to people like yourself whose love has no bounds, no labels and no assignment of hierachy in your family. You are one of the lucky and in turn ALL your children are blessed.Choochhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07924924213787237712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432268013198888049.post-18344666341582506922007-12-24T08:27:00.000-06:002007-12-24T08:27:00.000-06:00Ok Judy - Normally I stay out of this type of conv...Ok Judy - <BR/>Normally I stay out of this type of conversation, because, as you said, I find myself one of the lucky 'non labeled' adopted children. In my family (I am one of 2 adopted and 2 biological children), there is no separation, no invisible 'line' to cross between 'adopted' and 'real'. The lines have surfaced, from time to time, as I have struggled with a longing to find my biologicalAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432268013198888049.post-6572505226977792292007-12-23T22:45:00.000-06:002007-12-23T22:45:00.000-06:00Hey Jude!I totally agree with your comments and th...Hey Jude!<BR/>I totally agree with your comments and their sentiment. I appreciaste the candid advice of someone who has been there. I have a little experience with a related subject, and that is raising children I acquired through marriage. After the fact, I would say it was one of the most difficult things I ever did. I had the best of intentions going in. I loved the two boys, but after we Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15211481790122821957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432268013198888049.post-8146862350484691562007-12-23T10:07:00.000-06:002007-12-23T10:07:00.000-06:00I excluded the gay/lesbian adoptive parents intent...I excluded the gay/lesbian adoptive parents intentionally. But it does need to be said that this slice of parenting life DOES know the rocky road ahead and I am very sure that they have prepared themselves.<BR/><BR/>Your Dad obviously has gone through some major pain that was probably addressed as well as it could during that era. But remember, back when your Dad and myself included were Choochhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07924924213787237712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432268013198888049.post-73893873177014338922007-12-23T09:23:00.000-06:002007-12-23T09:23:00.000-06:00Jude: It's funny how we keep finding new common gr...Jude: It's funny how we keep finding new common ground. <BR/><BR/>My dad and his sister were adopted children. My father, born to a Dutch mother in Canada who's father was an Irish National in the English army and who abandoned his fiance', was put up for adoption at the age of seven months. He never bonded with his adoptive parents, even though they adored him and loved him to no end. My Dad Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432268013198888049.post-78779870358366392912007-12-23T08:17:00.000-06:002007-12-23T08:17:00.000-06:00Brat your sentence "the fight is where the love or...Brat your sentence "the fight is where the love originates" is key. Ms. Jolie has opened up the borders to multi-cultural adoptions but listen to her closely, I have yet to hear her say the label this is my adopted son Maddox, adopted daughter Zahara, my adopted son Pax and my daughter Shiloh. Only the media glaringly points out the familial differences in her blended family and for refusal to Choochhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07924924213787237712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432268013198888049.post-66091151277564236372007-12-23T07:44:00.000-06:002007-12-23T07:44:00.000-06:00another eye opener from you Jude...I've realized t...another eye opener from you Jude...<BR/><BR/>I've realized that adoption isn't really that easy... especially not on the child once the child finds out... I've seen that happen, so I don't have any false notions about that...<BR/><BR/>I think the reason the number of adoptions has shot up so suddenly is because (as you said), "Oh look at me.. i'm so selfless"... but you forgot to add a "Like Bharathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06491796800787771729noreply@blogger.com